The one thing most of us want, is the hardest to attain - a satisfying intimate relationship.  Relationships bring us our greatest joys and unfortunately also our deepest misery.  

I work with men and women of all sexual orientations in couples or individually helping them to maximise the opportunities within their partnership.  Due to the complexity of human beings there is no single model for a successful intimate relationship.  There are many different and sometimes unusual arrangements between partners.  Relationship is always dynamic and fluid.  As each partner evolves the relationship's capacity for growth is tested and sometimes stretched.  This is when some couples come for help.

Everyone in an intimate relationship, of whatever persuasion, will usually meet with difficulties at sometime or other.  It's what we do with conflict that matters.  Some are exploring the prospect of separation.  Some are struggling on from one crisis to another.  Some may seek help in growing to a new level of empowerment and partnership.  

In couples counseling you have the opportunity to explore areas that most trigger your unwanted and unsatisfying thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Unmet expectations, desires and requests will often surface in conflict, irritation or anger.  Some may fight and others retreat and close down, depending on the dynamics of your position.  It is often in the areas of intimacy, love and sex that conflict in relationships can arise because for each of us they can mean different things and have different values.

You and your partner have the opportunity to bring awareness to the dynamics between you, learning ways to make fulfilling contact with each other.  Discover how to work with difficult feelings and reveal your desire for loving connection.  Learn how to understand your partner from their deepest needs and yours.  Find out how to communicate so you are heard and emotionally satisfied.